Culture (U.S. Japan S.Korea)

Kids first? No, Moms’ Images Are!

You may be curious by reading the last blog about how other parents reacted to the serious health issue at school. This story really represents how the society works and the reality of parenting in South Korea.

Regarding the construction and health concerns, I asked around mothers via a class chat group. Most kept their mouth shut (or don’t care), a few showed their concerns and were indeed worried but chose not to raise their voice. Meaning that the solution is to let kids swallow everything and wait till construction ends.

Why? This is the scary part of society in Korea, and I can say it’s very similar in Japan, too.

Number one. It’s tiresome to deal with school, 귀찮아, the word you hear a lot from mothers. I don’t know if it’s a relatively younger generation mother thing, many don’t put much effort on kids, their own chicken & beer time is rather a priority.

Number two, they don’t want to stand out in the wrong way, don’t want teachers to think that they are the annoying mothers. Protecting their own “image” is very important here. They also think that it will affect how teachers treat their children.

Because they are afraid of isolation, they say nothing and wait until the boss mom states her opinion. Bullying among mothers are serious, they unite very well and quickly promote a demonstration or two to remove a certain group of people or target/isolate a person, if they see the obvious power balance.

The thing is that there are many situations children just have to swallow regardless issues are ethically right or not due to the above reasons.

However, I have to say that the children with those mothers are luckier because they are at least aware of issues. Many mothers don’t even know issues exist. This is because children and mothers in Korea are extremely lacking in communications. Kids don’t have a chance to hug and tell their mothers what’s bothering them at school.